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At the beginning, everything feels electric. They are attentive, affectionate, and deeply present. It feels like you have finally been seen. You fall fast, not just because of who they are but because of how they make you feel—chosen, safe, and understood.

Then, almost without warning, something changes. The messages slow down. The warmth fades. Conversations become distant. You start to feel like you are reaching for someone who is quietly slipping away.

And then come the words familiar to...

There are breakups… and then there are endings that shake you to your core — not just the loss of a relationship, but the loss of a best friend, a shared world, and the future you were building in your heart.

This kind of ending isn’t just heartbreak.

It’s identity grief.

It’s the quiet collapse of a life that only two people understood.

And one of the hardest parts?

No one prepares you for the grief of losing not only the person, but also the version of yourself who existed when they were in...

Gaslighting is one of the most insidious tactics a narcissist uses.

It’s not just lying — it’s a slow, deliberate erosion of your reality. Bit by bit, they twist your words, your memories, and even your emotions until you start doubting yourself.

I remember that confusion all too well.

Hearing phrases like:

“You’re too sensitive.”

“That never happened.”

“You’re imagining things.”

Each time, I questioned myself more. I started wondering if maybe I was too emotional or remembering wrong. That’s the...

We all have a boardroom inside our minds. Some days it’s orderly and focused — other days it feels like every voice in your head has taken the microphone and is shouting over everyone else.

The critic. The worrier. The dreamer. The perfectionist. The rebel.

They all want a say.

And if you’ve ever caught yourself overthinking, arguing with yourself, or trying to calm a storm of emotion that doesn’t seem to listen to logic — welcome to the meeting.

The Problem: You’re Not in the Chair

Most of us...

Disclaimer: This story is a personal reflection based on my own lived experiences. The views expressed are my own feelings and interpretations at the time.

She leaned over my shoulder one night while I was texting my son goodnight.

Within seconds, everything changed.

Her eyes narrowed, her tone sharpened “Who are you saying you love?”

I remember freezing. It wasn’t anger that hit me first, it was confusion.

I’d just messaged my son, good night, love you.

But in her mind, that simple message...

About two months after our engagement, she told me she’d started counselling again.

She’d seen this person on and off for years. I wasn’t around the previous times she’d gone through it, so I didn’t think much of it at first. I just wanted to support her in whatever way she needed.

She told me the counsellor had asked how supportive I was being.

And she’d said I was always there, patient, present, understanding.

She even admitted she should have been feeling on top of the world. After all, she’d...

It’s been a busy few weeks behind the scenes as I’ve been working on several new projects that I’m really excited to share.

The first is The Fine Line Between Love and Hate, which is now in its final stages. I’ll soon be looking for ARC (Advance Reader Copy) readers to get early access and share honest feedback before publication. If you enjoy emotionally raw, real-life storytelling with heart and truth, this one’s for you.

I’ve also been developing The Art of Letting Go a deeply personal...

They say “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.” But if you’ve loved a narcissist, the truth cuts deeper: you don’t realise what you were living through until you finally break free.

In the beginning, it felt like love—constant attention, affection, and promises of a future together. But behind the mask was manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control. What seemed like passion was really a toxic cycle designed to make you question your worth, your choices, and even your sanity.

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Every year on 10 October, the world comes together to recognise World Mental Health Day. It’s more than just a date in the calendar—it’s a reminder that mental health is as vital as physical health, and that no one should have to struggle alone.

This year, the message feels especially close to home for me. In recent weeks, three young local who lived close by have taken their own lives. One of them I trained alongside at the gym. All of them have left behind children, parents, siblings, and...

At first glance, narcissists can seem magnetic. They sweep into your life with charm, attentiveness, and an uncanny ability to make you feel seen. It’s easy to believe you’ve finally met the person who understands you completely. But behind that intensity lies a performance carefully designed to capture your trust and secure control.

You don’t simply “fall” for a narcissist. They don’t leave things to chance. They study you, mirror you, and mould themselves into everything you’ve ever wanted —...

Why do empaths so often attract narcissists? If you’ve ever found yourself drawn into a relationship that started with overwhelming intensity but ended with manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional exhaustion, you’re not alone. The dynamic between empaths and narcissists is one of the most common — and most destructive — patterns in toxic relationships.

In this blog, we’ll explore:

• What it really means to be an empath.
• The traits that define a narcissist.
• Why these two opposites attract so...

Struggling to move on from the past or a toxic relationship? Learn how to let go, heal, and build resilience. Get Kevin Gill’s free self-help book The Journey Back to You and join his ARC team today.Why Letting Go Feels So Hard

We’ve all held on to something—or someone—for far too long. A toxic relationship. A regret that replays in our minds. An old version of ourselves we can’t seem to let go of.
The problem? Our brains are wired to cling to the familiar. Psychologists call it loss aversion:...

It’s one of life’s biggest questions: Does everything happen for a reason, or do we truly have free will? Philosophers, scientists, and spiritual leaders have debated this for centuries, and it’s a question that touches all of us whenever we go through change, heartbreak, or unexpected events.

Fate vs. Free Will: The Big Debate

• Determinism (Fate): Some believe life is predetermined — that every event, choice, and outcome was always going to happen. In this view, “everything happens for a...

When you’ve been through a painful relationship, it’s easy to lump every confusing, distant, or hurtful behaviour into one box: narcissism. But not everyone who pulls away, goes cold, or leaves you feeling invisible is necessarily a narcissist. Sometimes, what you’re actually experiencing is an avoidant attachment style.

Both narcissists and avoidants can leave you questioning your worth, walking on eggshells, or feeling starved of love. But the motivations behind their behaviour — and the...

Why “What Will Be, Will Be” Is Keeping You Stuck

We’ve all said it: “What will be, will be.” On the surface, it sounds wise, even peaceful. But look a little closer, and you’ll see how this phrase quietly keeps you trapped in passivity — waiting for life to fix itself instead of taking charge.

It’s not just a harmless cliché. It can become a mindset that stops you from making changes, pursuing goals, or building the life you want. And the longer you wait for life to “work itself out,” the more...

One of the biggest questions people ask after leaving a toxic relationship is: “Do narcissists actually know what they’re doing?” If someone can lie, manipulate, or love-bomb so convincingly, surely they must realise it?

The truth is more complicated. Not every narcissist is self-aware, and many genuinely don’t see themselves as narcissistic at all. Others know and use it to their advantage. And to make things even more confusing, avoidant personalities can sometimes look very similar.

Lack of...

At first, it feels like a dream. The messages never stop. The attention is intoxicating. You’re swept off your feet and convinced you’ve finally found the one.

But sometimes, what looks like the start of a fairytale is actually the beginning of a toxic cycle: love bombing.

Love bombing is when someone overwhelms you with affection, promises, and attention to gain control and create dependency. It isn’t always obvious in the beginning — that’s what makes it so dangerous.

Here are ten subtle signs...